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10 Ways to Finish What You Start

10 Ways to Finish What You Start

Many people are poor at getting started. They make big plans but never take the first step. Others can get started but seem to bail out before they reach their goals. It’s quite maddening to put in a lot of work and then quit just before you reach success.

The most successful people are masters at finishing what they start. They’re like a bulldog with a bone. They’ll never give it up without a fight.

We all have a story of quitting that seems to haunt us. You can put a happy ending to these stories – and this behavior – by learning to finish what you start.

Try these techniques:

1. Develop the habit of being a finisher. This is most easily done by finishing all of the little things you start. Complete every little task you start.

● Wash ALL of the dishes.
● Fold ALL of the clothes.
● Finish the chapter you start reading.
● Be obsessed with driving through to the end.

2. Set reasonable time estimates. We often greatly underestimate how long something will take. When something takes longer than we think it should, we become discouraged and quit the task. Instead of assuming everything will go perfectly, assume there will be challenges and plan accordingly.

3. Release yourself from the need to be perfect. Perfection is a burden that gets in the way of progress. It takes too much time and destroys your enthusiasm. You can still do something well without taking the time or energy to try to make it perfect.

● Remember the adage, “Better done than perfect!”

4. Keep the benefits of finishing in mind. List the benefits of getting this task done. What will it do for you? How will you feel? Focus on the positive, and you’ll be much more motivated to complete it.

● This is much more effective than focusing on how much you don’t want to do it, or focusing on how miserable the experience will be.

● Keep the end in mind.

5. Reward yourself for completion. Plan on giving yourself a reward when it’s done.

● Buy yourself a new car when you finally land that new job.
● Go out for coffee when your taxes are complete.
● Meet a friend for dinner when your work is finally done.

6. Remember the times that you’ve quit in the past. We’ve all given up too soon and later regretted it. Remember those times. Remember how much it bothers you now that you quit. No one wants to relive that feeling. Quitting something meaningful should be something that no one does more than once.

7. Remember the times that you’ve completed a big project in the past. How did this make you feel? Really good, right? Hold on to that feeling and feel more of it, more often, by completing things, even if they’re just small tasks.

8. Keep track of your progress. Make note of the progress you make. Be proud of your progress and use it as fuel to keep pushing forward.

9. Keep away the negative thoughts. Giving up is the result of negative thinking. Notice when your thoughts are counterproductive and immediately switch your thoughts to something more positive.

● It’s hard to believe, but you can choose to think about anything you want. Choose wisely.

10. Be okay with discomfort. Being uncomfortable doesn’t have to derail your progress. Accept that you’re uncomfortable and keep on going.

● The more you give in to discomfort, the less you’ll achieve.

If you want to be successful, it’s crucial to learn to finish what you start. This isn’t a skill that most of us were taught. We like things that are easy and comfortable, but if you learn to finish what you start, your life can easily become more comfortable for you!

You know people that never seem to complete anything. You also know people that finish what they start. Take a long look at their lives. Whom do you want to be like?

10 Important Issues to Discuss Before Marriage

10 Important Issues to Discuss Before Marriage

You might be in love, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you should get married. It’s all fun and games for the first couple of years in most relationships, but all of that changes with time. Eventually, the infatuation fades away and reality sets in.

Is his cute smile worth living in Nebraska when you dream of living in Chicago? Does her sense of humor make her $140,000 of student loan debt worth it?

There’s a lot more to consider than just how enjoyable it is to be around someone right now. Your life will change. Is this the right person for the long haul?

A long talk before marriage can prevent challenges down the road and help encourage an eventual transformation from infatuation to a deeper love.

Discuss these issues with your significant other before marriage:

1. Where will you live? City or country? Condo or house? In the same town as your mother-in-law or far, far away. You spend most of your time in and around your home.

● Where you live has a huge impact on your life. Are you both on the same page? The only way to know for certain is to talk about it.

2. Who will clean what? What is the division of household labor? Will the man of the house do the repairs, mow the grass, change the oil in the cars, and pick up the dog poop? Who cooks? Who cleans? Is everything 50-50? There’s no right or wrong answer, but it helps if you both agree.

3. How much debt do you each have? Financial issues are the most common marriage challenge. How much debt do you each have? How willing are you to deal with your future spouse’s debt? How willing are they to deal with yours? Are you both going to be responsible for your own debt? What’s the plan?

4. Children. Do you both want children? If so, how many? If your answers aren’t in the same ballpark, you might have huge challenges ahead. Never assume that your partner will change their mind to accommodate you in the future. It’s a dangerous game to play.

5. Friends. Will you be joined at the hip with your spouse, or will you both be free to spend time with your separate friends? Some people love having time alone. Others don’t trust their spouse to be out with the boys/girls without their presence.

6. Spending. Some people like to save. Others love to spend. It can be difficult for people that don’t agree on this matter to get along in the long term. Make a plan that works for both of you.

7. Bank accounts. Separate? Joint? A joint account to pay the bills, but also an individual account for each? Who is going to pay for what? Will it be 50-50? Or will the bigger earner pay a greater percentage of the bills?

8. Religion. Some people aren’t interested in going to church every week. Others are serious about their participation in church services. There might be different religions to consider, too. Will you go to separate churches? Will one of you go to church while the other prefers to stay home?

9. Sex. It all comes down to a question of style and frequency. In most marriages, the issue is more likely to be frequency. Do you have similar sexual appetites?

10. Neatness. It’s very challenging for a very neat person to live with a messy person. For best results, work out this issue before marriage so there are no surprises.

Marriage can be a wonderful thing! It can be a nightmare, too. It’s important to do everything you can to ensure that you’re capable of making each other happy for many years to come. Discuss these important issues before deciding to tie the knot.